Negative Experiences are Valuable Opportunities

Quick disclaimer, before I jump into this post. This title is not a suggestion or invitation to betray yourself (the opposite actually). While we are the authors of our own stories, not everything in life is guaranteed. Walk with the awareness that external factors might sway into or converge into your lane/sphere. That’s just the spontaneity of life — or satan. More often than not, when something unexpected or out of the ordinary happens with people, we are just trying to communicate, ask for help and support — we’re trying to connect. Vibes will be the tell-all here. Walking this way does a few things: it alleviates the pressure to perform; it loosens the grip around what defines your worth; and it keeps you flexible — for collaboration and creation with others. 

What this blog title suggests then, is that negative experiences (traumas) are all valuable opportunities — should you experience them — and overcome them. Remain a master of yourself. If you can overcome the challenge itself and the impact from these experiences caused in your life — you’ll be able to help others. So really, the more life you’ve lived, the more you can do. Those traumas you’ve survived, overcome them — people are waiting for your help, guidance and truth-telling. And trust me, once and so long as you’re out of survival mode, you’ll realize how much time you have. You got time. 

Negative experiences (yes, talking traumas here) are invitations to walk in full ownership (see my last post on ownership here). And because you got time — why not manage the negative experiences first and foremost, before they interweave themselves into the rest of your life? Prioritize this healing above everything else, or else the damage will just drag on with you. Meet your healing with the same amount of force of the blow. If that leads you to make an entire marketing campaign about the experience and the change you want to see in the world because of it — by all means…create and collaborate. You just might make some really great friends in the process. 

So when it comes to facing these experiences: you want to think of this real practically and pragmatically. If your car tire pops on the roadway, you can’t get to where you need to go! Maybe you can, but you’ll be hobbling, probably hurting the rim of the wheel. Even though it takes time out of your day, the quicker you get your tire changed, the sooner you are on your way. Traumas work the exact same way. And if you can meet them with the same intensity of impact when they happened, at the start of healing, you are setting yourself up to filter everything out of your system more quickly. If you don’t want the negative consequences from the experience interfering with your life, you must meet the experience with a mindset of, “this does not belong here” as well as, “this needs full attention and priority” (think of the tire). Not in a neglectful manner, in an opposing one — protective over what consumes your time and energy.

Without this frame of mind, you’ll lean more toward focusing on how the experience made you feel, where the focus on those feelings then become your life. You’ll lean more toward rabbit-hole cycles of thought, continually second guessing yourself. Are you tracking? It all starts in your mind — if something terrible happened to you, stop giving the experience free-rent in your everyday life, your career and relationships. Pro tip: it’s easier to face these experiences when you share them with a solid support system. That’s how a cloud of witnesses works, they help you throw off the weight that your spirit is under. If you want to follow my lead and go rogue, tell strangers about it. Doing so adds a layer of spice to not only receive the witnessing, but now you get to manage your demeanor with the array of first impressions about you. Depending on the degree of trauma you experienced — it might be in your best interest to up your ante and sound the alarm, metaphorically speaking. 

To reiterate, this is all in regards to unexpected traumas (particularly isolated targeting and attacks). The reason why they are so valuable is because of Jesus. This is the point that most church congregations miss, being overly zealous and focused on sacrifice and Christ being our savior. While true, Jesus did not want to go through with the Crucifixion. He pleaded with His father to take the burden away.

This is God, in human form we are talking about, Jesus could have ended it himself, but stuck with the prophecy. The real thing that’s overlooked though? The kicker? Judas did not just betray Jesus — he trafficked him. Sold, turned over to the Roman guard under false criminalization, tortured — every thing against His human will. The nature of our psychology and biology makes us reactively avoid dealing with trauma. The world we live in is brilliantly designed to overlook it — whether individual or at large. Human trafficking though, is the largest ongoing crime on the planet — why do you think? Christ was the first human trafficked. Jesus was trafficked…If this isn’t common knowledge, the problem is going to persist and continue to inflate. That’s just what happens when you avoid systematic issues for too long — inflamed continuous damage.

To speak from experience, something in you does die. Something in our spirit dies, and yet we rise again — what does that make every target and survivor of trafficking then? One like God and one with God. This isn’t just about a season of life, it’s about what changes chemically in our brains and body and spirit after the abuse and attacks. It’s about this overlooked factor in the story of the death and resurrection — Jesus was trafficked. Why this all matters though is, satan knows this — he knows the kingdom work that is outlined for those of us who get trafficked — it’s why we’re targeted and hit the hardest (just a month shy from 8 years old when I was first targeted fam). The other thing satan knows? Evil loves to hide; and guilt and shame make you want to stay hidden — it’s more power for him. (Which is why you expose your trauma as soon as possible! No footholds here, only step-changes and sashays. March toward the light!) To be frank about it, for me? The experience now is like a speed bump in the rear view mirror. All attachment to it is gone. I bet you 30 pieces of silver (where do you think bottom dollar came from?), Jesus feels the same. But that’s just it, in 3 days he was renewed, but He’s God. We on the other hand, are only human. 

There are 8.3 billion people on the planet, theoretically available to witness 50 million/year and shine light on the ones driving this organized crime. The numbers right now, are manageable, but given that my experience was tolerated by both the building management, police force, and a vacation rental company? Fam… stop turning a blind eye to the life of your neighbor. Stop turning a blind eye to Jesus — to live is Christ.

Just don’t get the story twisted — you do the helping, the care, He does the saving. 50million/year? All kingdom workers, whether they know it yet or not — in need of refuge and recovery so they can get to their assignments of being Christ’s light in the world. Losing them just because it’s going really isn’t in our cosmic budget. More on that later in my book on metaphysics — third in the pipeline right now. Why do you think I was in such a rush to have you all witness my story? I’d just gotten out of “prison” 3 months prior to my attack in 2023. Do you know how annoying it is to get set back when you were finally about to break-out and launch into your life’s work? For that sentiment, I bet Jesus felt the same. All that to say — if you went through a negative experience, kill the negative impact that came from it. Then — get back to your job.

Don’t count on waking up. Be present. Be here. Now. Let’s go. 

Let’s throw off the weight.

-B