Stop Fighting — Start Building Instead

In other words: stop trying to escape.

Stop living in survival mode. Stop trying to prove a point to the people who have more learning and growing to do. Build yourself, and your life, instead. 

"But that’s impossible! When you’re in survival mode, you’re in survival mode.”

While that’s true — you still have to choose to leave it. You still have to choose a better way of living, especially when that mode has been habitual and prolonged into a lifestyle. In case it hasn’t occurred to you yet — you have a choice to leave that lifestyle. You have a choice to leave a mold that doesn’t suit you. You have a choice. 

While our feelings can be all too convincing of what reality is; while they are true, they are not always factual of reality and what’s possible. Here’s the thing about your feelings and emotions — they are the least of your worries. That doesn’t mean they aren’t important. Emotional intelligence and regulation is linked to health, success and longevity. But when it comes to directing yourself, and driving your life, how you feel in the moment about something, is as important as your ability to digest food. You might not of liked the taste of the pasta sauce you tried, but that doesn’t mean your body won’t digest it in the same manner of your favorite pasta sauce. So long as you aren’t allergic to it, your body will digest it. 

And this is the problem people run into: the inability to discern between temporary upset, of dealing with the uncomfortable feelings around a situation, so that they can be in a better place in the long-run. This is where the fear of facing the truth in this generation has led to a stage-four spiritual cancer in America. Life is really only what you do. So if you spend all your time fighting with yourself and with others about what you want to see changed, that’s all you’re doing, “fighting”. If you’re serious about anything in life, you’ll do something about it. So say what you’re going to do, and go do it. Go create the thing you want. All it is, is a box of legos.

And here’s the thing about legos — in order to create something, you have to use pieces of the same sizing. Otherwise they won’t lock into place. 

-B